23/90
It's been 23 weeks since I send my dossier to Ethiopia.
And it's been 90 weeks since I started the adoption process.
Now I know who Sproutie is (thank God!), I am thrilled beyond belief.
But this knowledge doesn't make the waiting any easier. And, I realized today, it might just make it harder.
And THAT made me realize what my New Year's Resolution (gulp) should be: No more complaining about the wait. Yeah, it's hard. But I am getting the greatest gift I can possibly imagine. And whining about the timing leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
So there you go.
Updates, yes. Complaints, no.
12 comments:
You can complain all you want. It must be gutting to have your daughter half way around the world.
I'll be listening.
My latest post is one big complaint..I guess I need to try to be more like you...ummm, forget it...I am choosing the low road and am going to complain:-) Hey, at least I can admit it:-)!!
Any word on time frame to court/travel??? Any chance we will be in Addis the same time?? I don't even know what agency you are using!!
You know a lot of people talk about how the wait melts away after you have your kid. Kind of like the whole "you forget the labor after you have your baby" thing. (Which I've never believed either.
For me -- I totally remember the pain of the wait. It's a total suckfest. It doesn't matter as much to me now, but I still remember how it felt. Complain away if you have to. Blogs are great venting zones.
good for you! i've said before that what is called "venting" feels to me like i'm "complaining"...and then i just get grumblier and discontenteder. (yes, i know those aren't real words.) i think you'll feel better with this new resolve!
(that said, don't explode or anything keeping all the nasties IN.)
Great attitude!
Just wait until we start admonishing our daughters for complaining in a few years!
Is that complaining? I mean, I'm complaining that my daughter may complain and I'll tell her not to complain.
I hadnt read that you recieved your referral-WOW-Congrats!!!!! I am excited for you and (if Im being honest) incredibly jealous! I think venting is fine- now you know who your child is and the wait to have her in your arms must be killer. Lots of good wishes coming your way!!!
You aren't alone in those feelings :) Go ahead and complain- I'm getting ready to do just that on my blog...you've definitely got my ear! Best wishes! You'll be holding your baby soon.
I think that sometimes complaining is a way of expressing our passions--that what we are waiting for is REALLY significant to us, and we feel that wait passionately. And that's ok (that, and I am, frankly, a big complainer). Erma Bombeck wrote something about pregnancy being her one chance to create a miracle, and I still complained ('cuz parts of it are truly hard and uncomfortable.) But, I think waiting to adopt a child is also a miracle, but nobody ever said miracles are easy! So, don't worry about the complaining. It seems like we are all listening.
I think that complaining about the wait is an integral part of the wait. It's all just so frustrating! But, for all my b*tching and moaning, I'm traveling in 2 weeks and I can't believe it's here already. You will feel the same way.
I think the wait IS harder after the referral. Now you know that there is a specific little one way over there just waiting for you!
At least you know that you're closing in on that great day when you will meet your daughter!
Hang in there
Please complain! You will set this crazy bar that none of the rest of us will be able to meet! And I long foe the updates! Hope she is home in your arms sooner than you expected!
I think it's ok to bitch and complain now that you have your referral - where before there was that God awfulness of knowing that by complaining about the wait for a referral you are effectively hoping this child leaves her birth family quicker so that you can adopt her faster - yuck the nth degree!!!
Now, you want Sprout safe and sound in your arms - and that's a good thing. The quicker you can bring her home, the better for her (and for you).
hugs
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