13/80
Today marks 13 weeks of waiting. Or 80, depending on how you count it.
My dossier has been in Addis for 13 weeks, and is somewhere in the hands of the people who will pick Sprout. (sigh)
I know I should not complain - some people wait YEARS for their referrals (and I know people adopting from China are waiting an especially long time).
The average wait for a referral (with my agency) is about 22 weeks from the date the dossier gets to Addis Ababa. So there is no way that I'm even close.
But, seeing as I started this whole process over a year and a half ago, my total wait is about 80 weeks. And I am starting to get impatient.
I'm not impatient because it's taking too long (I do trust that it's going to take as long as it should). I'm impatient because I want to know who Sprout is!!!
I want to have a real live little person upon whom to focus all this excitement and preparation and anticipation. It's hard to have so much free-floating energy and emotion, with nowhere for it to land...
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I feel for you. It was about 3 months in when I started to get decidedly grumpy about the whole thing. My husband called in my referral hormones and it really did remind me of my pregnancy irritability. Hang in there. we've all got your back and you are totally allowed to be as irritable and anxious as you need!
Thanks, Carrie!
I feel bad griping, but I am starting to get grumpy. Nice to know you are willing to put up with that. :-)
Sometimes I think that we forget that it's o.k. to feel grumpy and unsettled about our situations. This is a good place to vent, and just because other people have to wait longer doesn't mean you can't complain about your own situation! Nor do you have to feel guilty for it. So, tell us how you feel. That's partly why you write, and we read.
Hey it is ok to gripe every once in a while, I think we have all been there. So all is understood...and hopefully the remaining weeks fly by!
I agree - gripe & vent away. You would be weird not to, quite frankly.
We - your loyal readers - are always here - eager to hear from you during the good AND the yucky times.
You are so close now to seeing your first pictures of Sprout. I'll bet your emotions are all over the map. You need to let it out. And I love hearing about every detail.
AMEN!!
You said that perfectly. I don't want to hurry things up because I think I'll miss out on d2b. I want to hurry up and MEET d2b. I know she's alive...and I hope I know who she is. I just want to go kiss her neck! And, I want to know if she like purple or green or blue...if the trains were a good buy or if she'll love her doll best...
I do believe that everything happens at the proper and BEST time. I just hope our time comes soon.
Come over here and have lunch with me. It'll be fab!
We're in our 13th week of waiting, too! We don't expect our referral until mid-to-late spring -- our agency has a pretty long referral wait.
Even though this is our second time, I find myself getting to that familiar place of wanting it to stop being an abstraction and start being real. (and then, for me, the REALLY hard waiting starts!)
Vent away. It's cathartic. :)
I feel for you too! I just found this through somebody else's blog and I'm glad. Our last few posts have been strangely similar. Our time will come, but the wait sure it hard!
- Betsy (from the board)
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